You’re there to make each other feel like your best selves, so let the genuine praise flow freely.
It’s an easy enough thing to do and it makes their day better, so why not? Never, never forget to ask about the other person’s day. If it’s a toss-up, trade stories about why your days were so awful and you’ll end up laughing while trying to figure out who wins.
That all sounds a lot easier than it really is, so we’ve come up with 101 ways to make your relationship even better.
Plus, we asked a few of our favorite relationship experts for Ami Angelowicz. It might sound obvious, but when you really allow yourself to listen—and ask questions about—what your partner says, it not only leads to better conversations, but also better communication.
Take the time to actually look into one another’s eyes.
We spend a lot of time with our partners but sometimes we don’t actually see them. It may be super annoying to other people (and you may want to reserve it for when you’re in private), but a pet name can add an extra layer of intimacy to your relationship. Kahlil Gibran said “let there be spaces in your togetherness,” and we stand by that.
Plan a date where you revisit the spot you went on your first date.
Think of your relationship as a creative challenge. Whether its brunch this weekend, or a trip to a new neighborhood. Out of blue one day, initiate a high-school style make-out session.
Kissing is something that is often set to the side the longer a couple has been together. Don’t hold onto that thing your lover said or did six months ago and bring it up each time you get mad at him. Being able to listen to each other—even when the details are mundane—is important.
Creating small rituals can really help hold up a couple because they become “your thing.” Whether it’s a fancy night out during the holiday season, or watching a certain show every week, these are things that’ll give you both something to look forward to, and it’ll bring you closer together.
They can either deal with it or they can’t, but if you can’t be your most honest self with this person, it’ll come out eventually.