It stretches inland for 360 miles but is only 31 miles wide at the coast and 100 miles at its widest point.
In the north, the land is characterized by a gently rolling savanna. The southern plateau reaches a coastal plain with extensive lagoons and marshes.
In the US at least, one could petition for his future wife by way of the Fiancé Visa provision or through outright marriage which could take upward of twenty months. But why do African men go though this tortuous and circuitous immigration process? Though the preceding assertion is not empirically grounded, one can not but notice that “greenhorn marriages” dissolve quicker — mostly within five years with or without offspring.
These are parties by friends and acquaintances who went to Africa, marry and successfully petitioned for their wives to come to the United States.
And why do we slap the culture book at them when they have children out of wedlock?
It is a shame the way some African men in this country have treated and continues to treat some of our women.
Well, it is because (1) they can; (2) most men are under the illusion that the women they knew back home are innocent, un-spoilt and virginal; (3) it is an ego boosting exercise in that it allows them to demonstrate to their people back in Africa that they too can bring one of their own to the US; (4) it allows some men to mask their “failures and shortcomings” since the women who are already in the US can tell where they are on the social and economic ladder. He can be sweet and loving and caring and benevolent and at the same time oppressive. In so many ways, he is a wounded animal as a result of his historical past. Even though the outside world is depriving him of his manhood, he has found a way to make part of his world his playground. As for the men who go in search of these women, well, their mindset has been discussed. These women see ghosts and dream of “bad-bad-bad-things.” Depression and identity crisis then sets in.
Additionally, some men want their women to look up to them since it makes them appear more than what and who they really are (at least in the initial stages). What needs to be added is the fact that most are never happy because they got what they never bargained for: stunned, disappointed and underachieving wives who never knew about 40-60-hour work week; women who never knew there are no dollar minting factories down the street, that America is not what they saw in the movies and magazines, that America is not a world of instant riches and glamour. Those who can’t cope then leave their husbands and marriage and try to go it alone believing their lots would be better without the “extra baggage.” Big mistake, for most!